Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are nerve wracking, stressful and 
frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them. So not only are these 5 tips to get back at your ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.
1 – Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.
2 – Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a 
little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.
3 – Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.
4 – Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop 
a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.
5 – Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.
The most important thing is to make up your mind and have a plan. Of course it is not easy to come up with great ideas when your heart is broken. This is why it can really help to get some good advice to lead you in the right direction. Our recommended resource is “The Magic Of Making Up”, which you can download instantly from here.
Monday, 11. May 2009
i am a woman who was left by another woman and my heart is broken because he said i was his first love but he move out of town and started a new life and know wont speak to me at all and has posted on his my space that he has a new relationship knowing that would break my heart…and he had always told me that he couldnt and wouldnt be able to move on for a long time if we ever broke up but now it seems all the opposite of what she told me ….there is also a 22 year age difference and we were together for 1 year and fought alot but seemed to care too….please help i am the femme side she is the “butch” or more like a man
Tuesday, 12. May 2009
I’m sorry to hear that you’re in pain. When relationship doesn’t work out, this happens. It’s hard for an outsider to appreciate all the situation and give appropriate advice. However, reading a good book and talking to a close friend will help you figure out the right way to go forward.
I’d recommend “The Magic of Making up” as a starting point to clear your clouded mind, put emotion aside, and think it through. You can get a refund in 56 days if it doens’t help.
Cliff